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Thursday, April 14, 2011

Killing Yourself - and Your Kids

This week, yet another parent who had an unfortunate episode in her life decides hers is no longer worth living and decides to end it - and also decides to take her kids along with her.

The story broke yesterday and details have been trickling out since. One of this woman's children was able to escape, and the article goes into some detail about how his mother tried to undo her decision, but in the end, his mother, his sister, and his 2 brothers perished.

I've said this before, and I'll say it over and over again - you want to kill yourself, fine. Go ahead. Kill yourself. If you feel that little about your life that ending it is the only recourse you have, please, feel free. I won't stop you. It's your life, it's your choice.

Your children's lives, however, are not yours to end. You are their mother, and you gave them life. That does NOT give you the right to decide when their lives are to end. Who the hell are you to decide "If I die, then you die with me"? Since when were you given divine right to end your child's life? You were given that child to care for, to nurture, and to raise into a decent human being. If you are incapable of that job, and in the process feel that you need to end your life, I have a suggestion for you. It's very, very simple. Give your kids to their father, or if the father is as incapable as you are, to someone that will take care of them. Make sure they will be loved and nurtured. You don't have to make a big spectacle about it. Drop them off, say you have something to do, and leave. Say your goodbyes, and tell them you love them. Then go off and kill yourself.

Because it's very likely the kids won't need you anyway, and it's probably better for them in the long run.

I don't condone suicide, and I'd hate to see kids lose their parents. But if you're suicidal, don't take your kids with you.



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